My dear friend, we’ve enjoyed precious moments together. We had one great friendship that made many envious of it. People always tried to warn me, and I thought they were judging you without really knowing you. Something made you special, something made you stand out of the crowd to be my true special friend. You had a great personality: responsible, funny, wise, loving, caring, spontaneous, crazy, and very crazy. Your priorities were different. Oh, you may be wondering if I mean that you’ve changed. Well, yes, you have. And you’ve changed a lot. Or if you believe that you haven’t changed, then it means one thing: your personality that I loved and cherished was not real. Was it a disguise to win my friendship??? Really am not sure. Were you playing a certain role? Or did you really change? Whatever the case was, I would certainly love to see you back in the personality that best suits you, the one you had when we enjoyed a close friendship.
If you don’t cherish our precious moments, never mind. But I wish you choose the right track for you life. Don’t go running without a clear direction. Really, my dear friend, I would love to see you achieving your goals and succeeding in life. But, again I say, choose the right track.
Well, no am not a photographer, and not willing to be. But I have a smartphone (yeah still using that N8), and it has a great camera, so why not take photos of nice stuff I come across? Here’s a bunch:
One of her friends asked her: “so after all these years and all the love you had for him, you simply don’t love him anymore?”
She answered: “Yes.”
They asked: “Why? What happened?”
She answered: “hmm well let’s see. He will always be a special and dear friend, that’s it.”
They interrupted: “You haven’t answered why. Is it that you have finally found out that he is not mature enough? You found out the real him, we’ve been telling you about?”
She answered: “Girls, I haven’t met someone as mature as he is. For all the reasons I have told you before, I still believe he’s an amazing guy. But some of his recent activities, especially online, showed me that he cannot face peer-pressure and that he is a bit of a show-off person. Add to it, am sure someone, and I know who that is, has already told him how I feel about him. If he had shared me the same feelings, it would have been another story. And lately, I have a feeling there is someone he cares for. So, it’s time to move on. That’s it.”
One of her friends, who was very happy, told her: “I should introduce you to my cousin. I am sure you’ll make a great couple.”
She interrupted: “I don’t want to be introduced to anyone, I simply want to taste life without having to care about anyone except for me, my family, and my dear friends. I want to taste life without having to think about anyone or miss anyone.”
They asked: “You miss him?”
She replied: “The weather is lovely today.”
It all started the moment the doctor told my mom that she’s bearing triplets. Yes triplets! And they are the 3Js: Joyce, Joelle and Julie. So how has the last 4 years of our lives been since my sisters saw the light? Allow me to explain.
It’s amazing how one moment changes your whole life, your goals, and your plans. Even before welcoming the girls we had to go through a lot of changes; after all, their coming was not planned nor expected, it was the most beautiful gift we’ve received, and this gift needs to be taken care of. I had to quit university, and take care of mom especially when she was hospitalized for one month before giving birth. Then came the moment we’ve all been waiting for: the moment when the doctor said “the mom and kids are good and healthy, mabrouk!”
Talk about sleepless nights since then; yes, sometimes 48hrs pass and we don’t get one hour sleep. Oh caffeine, thank you so much for doing your job back then! Coffee, tea, chocolate, coke, was what we mostly consumed. Let’s do some math here: 3 babies, you have to feed each one every 3hrs, and change diapers, plus laundry, sterilizing milk bottles etc. Full-time job! That’s how we spent the first six months.
If you think with time when they grow up things get easier, you’re mistaken. Each phase has it’s own troubles and blessings. No more sleepless nights, thank God; but you have to train them to eat by spoon, train them to walk, potty training, sleepless nights hit back when they’re sick. We were always (and still are) on the watch so they don’t fall, or chew on hazardous stuff, you name it. And with all our efforts to stay cautious they locked themselves in the bathroom, they fell off the bed, they locked mom outside of the house, they broke the table’s glass in the living room, etc. That’s why we’ve done some “re-decoration” to our house: the living room is a playground, the kitchen is messed up, the bedrooms are crowded, and the walls are filled with my sisters’ drawings.
But all those troubles fade away by a single hug or kiss from my 3Js. Or when I’m at work and they call me to tell me “I love you”, my day moves smoother.
Life when there’s kids around is a whole different world. You work more to improve your personality. You need to be strong, cause they count on you. You need to be patient, cause they need to grow up and learn new stuff. You need to be a good teacher, cause you never know when they ask you something. You need to speak the truth, you can’t lie to a kid. All in all, you must set a good example, cause you are their role model, and they look up to no one but you.
Every day holds a new adventure with my sisters. Every day holds a new experience. Is it worth it? TOTALLY!
“A friend in need is a friend indeed” We all have that friend in our lives and have played that role as a real good friend to others. Yes, friendship is vital for life. And with such a friend in our lives we are proud to point out and say “that’s my friend that I count on”; even God was proud to reveal to humankind His friend “… Abraham my friend…” Isaiah 41:8
But the real friend is the one that lasts, right? Not the one who just turns around and leaves for the most stupid reasons. And believe me, you never know exactly if your friend is really a friend until you face troubles. Let’s say you had a little misunderstanding, and it felt bad, as if the world ended; but because you have a strong relationship, you were able to solve that little issue. The beautiful thing is that after such an incident your friendship is now stronger than ever before, and yes your world is back to life.
But there’s this type of friendship that’s really confusing. There’s this friend you really really really love, but… Let’s elaborate more on this subject. That person is always ready to help you, would never let you down, always there to cheer you up, shows you how special you are, and you try to do the same in return. That person is the one you care about the most, and one thing you know for sure you never want that person upset or bothered. So far so good? But at times, when you just need to talk to him/her, they are not there. Sorry, allow me to rephrase that last sentence: they are there, they exist, but they ignore you. How do you feel when that happens? You start to question everything, and all those memories you shared. You even blame yourself, and wonder if it’s something you have done that bothered them. Ask them if there’s something wrong? Well you’re somehow sure what their answer will be, and you know it’s not going to solve matters at all. Fight for that friendship, or let time solve it? I absolutely have no idea.