Posts Tagged ‘before and after’
My dear friend, we’ve enjoyed precious moments together. We had one great friendship that made many envious of it. People always tried to warn me, and I thought they were judging you without really knowing you. Something made you special, something made you stand out of the crowd to be my true special friend. You had a great personality: responsible, funny, wise, loving, caring, spontaneous, crazy, and very crazy. Your priorities were different. Oh, you may be wondering if I mean that you’ve changed. Well, yes, you have. And you’ve changed a lot. Or if you believe that you haven’t changed, then it means one thing: your personality that I loved and cherished was not real. Was it a disguise to win my friendship??? Really am not sure. Were you playing a certain role? Or did you really change? Whatever the case was, I would certainly love to see you back in the personality that best suits you, the one you had when we enjoyed a close friendship.
If you don’t cherish our precious moments, never mind. But I wish you choose the right track for you life. Don’t go running without a clear direction. Really, my dear friend, I would love to see you achieving your goals and succeeding in life. But, again I say, choose the right track.
Yes it is the truth. Men simply know how to make their lives easier. To clarify things a little bit around here, I’m talking about men who are older than 40 years; although somethings are applicable on younger men and boys, and ofcourse not all men above 40 years are discussed below.
Before engagement, he’s Mr. Perfect. He knows how to cook, iron cloths, etc. Her friends envy her so much for that; she’s always bragging about him. After marriage, well, he’s still Mr. Perfect. He prepares her morning coffee; if she ever gets sick he takes care of the house, cooks, prepares meals, and make sure she’s taking her medication. But after some years, when they have kids, when she mostly need him to be around and give her a hand, he isn’t Mr. Perfect anymore, and especially if he’s about his forties or above. It is at that stage that he decides to do things his own way. He’s own way is watching TV, browsing the internet, etc. when he comes home. At that stage he wants to have some time alone, enjoy life, do things his own way, and give himself a lot of time to relax. His excuse? He’s overloaded with work. He’s getting tired. He has too much responsibilities. What about your wife? Taking care of your family is a 24 hours job, don’t run from that. Why is it that your wife should be an employee and a housewife at the same time? She comes from work and start taking care of her responsibilities at home. She has to prepare food, she has to make sure her children studied well, she has to listen to their problems and solve them, and the list goes on. (Dear readers, I am not talking about all men. So all you men who are reading this don’t tell me: There are housewives/women who have maids and they spent their time at the spa and beauty salons. I am aware of those ladies and their lives.) So where did his charm and gentle disappear after so long? Why now when she mostly need him to be around?
I’m not asking men to do the household. I know they do work hard to provide their families with all their needs. But part of their responsibility is providing their families with care and love. That is done by simple stuff that will save their wives so much time and effort.